Mere yaar ki shaadi hai - Assistance required... :)

From the days I started talking to girls, I realized that I was a good listener. They would talk to me for hours altogether, and I would quietly listen. This is probably one of the major reasons why they would confide in me a lot. And, at the end of it all, I would give them my “expert advice”, something that they would really look forward to. I did help out most of them with my advice, and it always felt good that I could lend a helping hand.

This feature also helped me “expand my services”, free of cost, to other friends of mine as well. Experience also started playing a vital role as I would have first hand information to share with them, that they could relate to. Hardly did I know at that point in time, that this would be one of the most important aspects, which would come in handy for my friend Ayan.

I met Ayan, in Hyderabad when I went there to join Datamonitor. From the first instance, we shared a strong connect, and had a similar thought process. This was the building block of our great friendship. Even after he shifted out of Hyderabad due to a job change, I kept in touch with him on a regular basis, something that I am not very good at. But over time, I started talking to him more often and we became the best of buddies.

Well, enough of context… a couple of months back, ayan tells me over the phone that a girl is interested in him. I actually fell from the sky… Someone was interested in him.. WOW!! That was news… and apparently he also liked her a lot… that was even bigger news.. mainly because he studied in NIFT Hyderabad, and had no-one in his life.. and also he didn’t seem particularly interested in anyone from his or other batches as well.

This is where my “experienced services” came in play. Obviously when he told me all this, I congratulated him, for his delayed but finally came through efforts. Then on a day to day basis, I would advise him how to tackle certain sensitive situations. I stepped in in a major way when he finally called me one day and told me that he has decided to get married to the same girl. Talk about hit and succeed at one go.. Well, anyway, Ayan is very good at delegating responsibilities to others, and make them help him out. Thus, he delegated the responsibility of handling his mama and maami to me, people whom he is very close to, and since I know them as well and speak to them often, it would make more sense. They, on the other hand were to handle his parents, and make them realize what the situation was in a subtle manner. Well, that went smoothly and finally Ayan calls me up last night at midnight, to tell me that the entire conversation process has gone smoothly and now there is a different task for me to fulfill.

I couldn’t even imaging what he was going to ask me at that point in time. Finally, he said… My parents are going to meet her parents and I need you to be MY REPRESENTATIVE. So.. now I am finally looking forward to the day, I am supposed to book flight tickets to go along with his family members. Mere yaar ki shaadi hai… ab itna toh karna hi padega na…. have you ever had such an experience??

Love-ly arranged???

Marriage… that’s a word that pretty much scares the shit out of every person.. whether the person is going for a love or arranged marriage… Since my childhood, I have always been a shy guy… this was predominantly because I was studying in a guys school, and I never had the confidence to walk up to a girl and ask her out..

This status changed once I entered college. I joined the commerce stream and thankfully it was a co-ed class. I started talking to girls more often, and became more comfortable around them. But, my first relationship came, when I was studying in B’Com 1^st year. Yeah!!! That late J Well, my inexperience was very much visible, and the relationship dragged on for a couple of months before I finally called quits. Hardly did I know at that time that this was the beginning of a series of disasters to follow.

My ultimate disaster was probably when I was in my 3^rd year of graduation. I was going around with the girl for nearing about a year I guess, and when I finally moved to Bangalore for my higher studies, she conveniently dumped me and moved on with her previous boyfriend. That was a big thing in my life at that point in time.. but I moved on.. I think it was more out of anger and the want to get back at her that I started a random dating spree. Well, truly speaking I did enjoy at the beginning. But, like its said, good things last for only that long.

Like a fool, I moved on from one relationship to another. I kept getting introduced to different girls, and then I would find myself in a relationship sooner than I would expect… MAN!!! These were probably the worst days of my life… But, I would also never seem to give up. I kept going at it.

Finally, my last relationship brought a lot of stability in my life. From my first relationship which lasted just a few months, this relationship would see me go through more than 2 years before it ended. Well, at this stage, my maturity levels also rose, and I like any other person, thought it would be best for me to maintain this stability and get married. Another reason was that I was also reaching the proper age for marriage and I didn’think it was right for me to drag on.

SO, finally, I also registered myself in to the infamous matrimonial sites to search for a bride. Well, to start with, I always had the feeling that 90% of the Bengali girls are very beautiful. This coming from most of the girls I had met or seen till date. Man did this opinion change instantly. IT WAS THE BIGGEST HORROR SHOW I have ever witnessed. From girls posing in picnic hats, to aunty looking “girls” sending me interests, I kept on wondering, if I had made the right choice. Initially, me and my friend Ayan, who had also enrolled himself for this “COURSE”, started looking frantically for the best looking girls we could possibly come across. This stance, slowly changed and we started realising that “The law of demand and supply” was totally different in the case of the girl as opposed to the boys. We came back to earth very soon and started looking for prospective brides, more suitable to our tastes, looks and everything else.

This search then started turning into a fun exercise, and the both of us used to discuss some of the profiles and make fun of them as well. This was purely out of frustration as well. Today, its been more than six months, and I am still searching through the database to find someone who would be able to tolerate me. More than that, I feel that the entire feeling of getting married in an arranged fashion, is just so not me. It kinda scares the shit out of me as well at times to think that I would be married to a girl whom I would know for only some weeks to months. But, well, like its said, no-one can ever understand a girl completely, so I and still waiting to take my leap. J Are you?? J